The Love, Life and Happiness we share

1. Companionship.

2. Communication.

3. Commitment.

Two things we learned after being married for two years …

1. The key to succeeding in marriage is not finding the right person, it’s learning to love the person you found.

2. Life’s not based on the money you earn or the success you’ve achieved. It’s all about being happy with who you are, who you’re with, who you’ve got, who you love and what makes your life worth living.

… two years and still counting. =)

1. First, you feel powerful sexual chemistry with someone or, in raw terms,lust.

2. Next, you act on those urges and have sex with that person.

3. Then you experience some guilt or discomfort having been so sexually intimate with someone you aren’t that emotionally connected with.

4. Finally you create a relationship with that person to legitimize your lust.

1. Pressure(age, family, friends, etc.)

2. Loneliness and desperation

3. Sexual hunger

4. Distraction from your own life

5. To avoid growing up

6. Guilt

7. To fill up your emotional or spiritual emptiness.

1. We don’t ask enough questions.

2. We ignore warning signs of potential problems.

3. We make premature compromises.

4. We give in to Lust Blindness.

5. We give in to material seduction.

6. We put Commitment Before Compatibility.

1. Love is not enough to make a relationship work -it needs compatibility and it needs commitment.

2. It just takes a moment to experience infatuation, but true love
takes time.

3. It is possible to experience true love with more than one person -there are many potential partners you could be happy with.

4. The right partner will fulfill many of your needs but not all of them.

5. Good sex has nothing to do with true love, but making love does.
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… Happy
Valentine’s Day! …

1. You care about your partner more than he does about you.

2. Your partner cares more about you than you do about him.

3. You are in love with your partner’s potential.

4. You are on a rescue mission.

5. You look up to your partner as a role model.

6. You are infatuated with your partner for external reasons.

7. You have partial compatibility.

8. You choose a partner in order to be rebellious.

9. You choose a partner as a reaction to your previous partner.

10. Your partner is unavailable.

1. Never try to change your loved one to suit your own taste. It defeats the purpose of falling in love with him/her for what he/she really is.

2. More often than not, it is THE EX that couples often fight about. Try not to. In the first place, both of you know very well that you’re glad to have found each other and are not with your previous bf/gf anymore.

3. Guys will forever be thinking of different girls the whole day. But it is who’s in their hearts that they will be always thinking of every night before they sleep at night (hoping that they dream of her that night as they sleep too).

4. After a fight and you stay up sad, can’t sleep and thinking of your loved one, We guarantee that he/she is doing the same thing too.

5. After being with each other for so long, never forget the little things that made you fall in love with him/her more.

6. Loving someone isn’t about seeing him/her as often as you can. It’s about trusting each other that both of you love and learn for one’s company. The moment you start counting the number of times you call/see/spend time/talk with each other then chances are the one who is keeping tabs has the problem. Love is more than that.

7. Too much jealousy can kill, but a little of it is healthy. Besides, it’s nice to know that your loved one fears losing you.

8. It’s pointless to be in a relationship if you can’t see yourself spending the rest of your life with your bf/gf. True love is not a pastime.

9. For guys: So what if your abs aren’t as defined or gush-worthy? Or you don’t look any bit like Brad Pitt? For girls: So what if you don’t have big breasts that are drool-worthy? Or you don’t look any bit like Heather Graham? Whatever you feel you lack physically, your bf/gf still sees you as the hottest, most attractive person on earth.

10. Never underestimate the value of holding hands. It was the first time you knew you love and are loved in return by the person you’re with now. And it was the prelude to the kiss. "Let lips do what hands do: they kiss." (Romeo&Juliet)

11. Look forward to spending time with your bf/gf. Time spent together should never be an obligation or part of a routine because this leads to taking the fun out of being with each other.

12. Don’t undervalue laughter. Just like the previous statement, fun is also a considerable aspect of a long-lasting relationship.

13. Support each other. Motivate one another. Don’t be insecure at the success of your loved one. Besides, you may not know it, but you play a vital role in inspiring him/her.

14. Small random acts of sweetness have guaranteed tremendous effects.

15. When you fight, what’s the use of prolonging  your agony? Don’t let pride waste time that should be spent happy together.

16. When having a serious fight and you ask yourself whether or not your elationship is worth rescuing and your answer is a "yes"; with conviction, then you must be right. But if deep inside, your answer is "I’m not really sure", you may not be aware of it, but it leans on the "no" answer.

17. Say "I love you" because you mean it, and not because you have to. Don’t hold back on saying it out of the blue too. Besides, you’ll never get a negative reaction from doing so. And it will feel good for the both of you.

18. Never take for granted the word "friend" in boyfriend and girlfriend.
Do all the sweet, mushy stuff that couples do,but don’t ever forget that your bf/gf is a friend too!

There are many things that we can do to perk up and strengthen our interpersonal relationships. Yet the most effective involves the saying of just three words. When spoken or conveyed, these statements have the power to forge new friendships, deepen old ones and restore relationships that have cooled. The following three-word phrases can enrich every relationship…

I’ll Be There …
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I’ll be there." Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

I Miss You …
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other "I miss you." This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how ecstatic you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."

I Respect You …
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect conveys the feeling that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become close friends. This applies to all inter-personal relationships.

Maybe You’re Right …
This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring frayed emotions. The flip side to "maybe your right" is the humility of admitting, "Maybe I’m wrong". Let’s face it. When you have a heated argument with someone, all you do is cement the other person’s point of view. They, or you, will not change their stance and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you’re right" can open the door to further explore the subject, in which you may then have the opportunity to get your view across in a more rational manner.

Please Forgive Me …
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

I Thank You …
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don’t take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the ther hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

Count On Me …
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship; it is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating you can "count on me."

Let Me Help …
The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in and help.

I Understand You …
People become closer and enjoy each other more if they feel the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know in so many little ways that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. This applies to any relationship.

I Love You …
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person’s deepest emotional needs; the need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your family, your friends and you.

take it from us guys … this is so true …

July 31, 2004. what a very magical day. and now, it’s been a year.